I’m right here. and I’m choosing to be here. not because I’m settling. not because I don’t know any better. not because I haven’t seen your flaws or your struggles or the parts of yourself you try to hide. I’m here because I want to be. because I choose you. because you are exactly who I want. you are enough. as you are. in this moment. you don’t have to be more. you don’t have to be different. you don’t have to fix yourself or improve yourself or become some other version of who you are before you deserve to be loved. you deserve it now. exactly as you are. I know that’s hard to believe. I know your mind is probably fighting against every word I’m saying, trying to find the loopholes, trying to prove me wrong, trying to protect you from the disappointment it thinks is coming. but I need you to try. just for a moment. try to let this in. you are not a burden. you are not too much. you are not a project I’m trying to fix or a problem I’m trying to solve. you are a person I love. a person I choose. a person I want in my life, not in spite of who you are, but because of who you are. all of you. the good parts and the messy parts. the strong days and the hard days. the moments when you feel confident and the moments when you can barely look at yourself in the mirror. all of it. I want all of it. because that’s what love is. it’s not about finding someone perfect. it’s about finding someone whose imperfections fit with yours. someone whose struggles you’re willing to sit with. someone whose growth you want to be part of, not because they need to change to be worthy, but because you want to walk beside them as they become more of who they already are. and you, my love, are more than enough for me. I know you don’t always see what I see. I know when you look at yourself, you criticize yourself and even alot more but when I look at you, I see someone who tries. someone who cares deeply, even when it hurts. someone who shows up, even on the days when it feels impossible. someone who loves with his whole heart, even when he’s scared of being hurt. I see someone who is gentle and thoughtful. someone who notices the small things. someone who makes me feel seen in a way I’ve never felt before. I see someone who is brave, even when he doesn’t feel brave. someone who keeps going, even when his mind is telling him to give up. someone who is doing his best, even when his best doesn’t feel like enough. but it is enough. you are enough. you don’t have to earn my love. you don’t have to prove your worth. you don’t have to be perfect or have it all together or never struggle or never doubt yourself. you just have to be you. that’s all I need. that’s all I want. I know you’re tired of feeling like you’re not enough. I know you’re exhausted from trying to measure up to some impossible standard that keeps moving further away every time you get close. I know you’re scared that one day I’m going to wake up and realize you’re not what I thought you were, and I’m going to leave. but that’s not going to happen. because I already know who you are. I see you. the real you. not the version you think you need to be. not the person you’re trying to become. the you that exists right now, in this moment, with all your doubts and fears and insecurities. and I love that person. I choose that person, you are my person. the one I want to come home to. the one I want to share my days with. the one I want to hold when things get hard and celebrate with when things go right. you are the one I choose. every single day. not because I have to. not because I’m stuck. but because I want to. because my life is livable with you in it. because you make me feel things I didn’t know I could feel. I know your mind is probably still arguing with me. I know it’s probably saying, “but what about this? what about that? what about all the ways I’m failing?” and I want you to know — I see those things too. I see the moments when you struggle. I see the times when you feel like you’re falling apart. I see the days when you can barely get out of bed. and I’m still here. because those things don’t make you less worthy of love. they make you human. they make you real. and I don’t want some perfect, polished version of you that never struggles or doubts or falls apart. I want you. the real you. the human you. the you that’s doing the best you can with what you have. that’s the person I fell in love with. that’s the person I stay in love with. that’s the person I will keep choosing, over and over again. you don’t have to be strong all the time. you don’t have to have all the answers. you don’t have to pretend you’re okay when you’re not. you don’t have to hide the parts of yourself that think are too much or not enough. you can just be. and that will always be enough for me. I need you to understand something. my love for you is not conditional. it’s not based on your performance or your productivity or how well you manage your mental health on any given day. it’s based on you. the person you are at your core. the heart you carry. the way you see the world. the way you make me feel safe and seen and valued. those things don’t change based on whether you’re having a good day or a bad day. those things are part of who you are. and who you are is enough. more than enough. I know it’s going to take time for you to believe this. I know one message isn’t going to undo years of feeling like you’re not enough. I know your mind is going to keep trying to convince you otherwise. but I’m going to keep saying it. I’m going to keep showing you. I’m going to keep choosing you, over and over again, until maybe, slowly, you start to believe it too. you are worthy of love. you are worthy of kindness. you are worthy of patience and understanding and grace. you are worthy of being chosen. of being wanted. of being held and cherished and valued exactly as you are. you don’t have to change for me. you don’t have to become someone else. you don’t have to fix all your broken pieces before you deserve to be loved. you deserve it now. you’ve always deserved it and I’m here to remind you of that, as many times as you need to hear it. you are enough, my love. you are so deeply, completely, entirely enough. on your good days and your bad days. when you believe in yourself and when you don’t. when you feel strong and when you feel like you’re barely holding on. you are enough. I see you. I know you. I love you and I’m not going anywhere. you are my choice. my favorite person. the one I want. not because you’re perfect. but because you’re you. and you, exactly as you are, are more than enough for me. I love you. I love you. I love you. please try to let that in. even just a little bit. you are enough. you always have been and I’m so grateful I get to love you.